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Biz Trends to Watch For in 2011/2012

Sunday, March 20th, 2011

What is it about your business that makes people smile? How do you give back to mother nature? And how do you combine those things with social growth?  Do you deliver information in such a way that people become convinced they must buy your product?

Keep an eye out for the four trends I describe below in 2011/2012. They prepare you for what to expect and how to act regarding your customers. If you anticipate these trends you can make them your strengths and have fun with them! You can start right away by asking yourself the questions I pose in this article. If you want more information, please let me know at esmee@studiobranding.nl. The visual article is to be found here.

1. Reflection

Something changed over the last few years across the globe; the focus has shifted from personal success to social interaction. We’ve started to value relationships and maintaining those relationships more than ever. Spiritual activities, books and philosophies have soared in popularity as well. It seems that we are rethinking how to spend the time we have in our precious lives. As we look to spend our time in more socially and spiritually conscious ways, we seek out activities that reflect this new train of thought. Initiatives like ‘Networking Festival”, a 3-day networking event where you can meet new business partners and friends at meet-ups & workshops, are examples of this new trend. Another is ‘Unity Express’, a train that drives through Europe and strives to generate close relationships between like-minded people. It’s about exchanging services, helping each other, and ultimately benefitting mother earth as well. Personal growth and meaningful connections are what we are longing for. We are in the highest layer in the Maslov pyramid.

Take this trend into consideration in your business practices. Highlight the personal aspects as well as the social values your product or service offers. Show what can be accomplished for mother earth. Key things to think about include:

rediscovering our existence on earth
embracing the moment
combining friendship and personal growth

2. Ecotechnology

As we treat life more as a precious phenomenon, we want to know more about the food we buy in the supermarket and what we put in our bodies. That places eco-technology at the forefront of our thoughts. We think about where the food comes from, how it’s made, and whether it’s environmentally friendly. For example, if we discovered the fish on our grocery store was endangered we probably wouldn’t buy it. Holland’s Marqt and Ruudmaaz supermarket is ahead of this trend, providing customers with background information on products as well as local farming information. Across the globe, seasonal products are becoming the preferred choice, and people are increasingly growing their own food, particularly herbs and veggies, at home. Modern technology goes hand in hand with this thinking because it enables us to live more efficient, sustainable, and eco-friendly lives. Many people choose their products based on the optimal combination of technical efficiency and eco-friendliness. One such product is the Ibasket, a machine that washes and dries at the same time and automatically turns off.

Regardless of your company, you can probably incorporate the main concerns of eco-technology somehow. Think about the quality and quantity of information your brand delivers. Think about what information can influence the buying process for your customer. Key ideas to keep in mind are:

fairness and transparency
do-it-yourself
food technology with advanced information
hyper intelligent machines let us handle more efficiently

3. Smile Factory

Given the current state of the world, it’s natural for people to feel insecure about the future and seek comfort in nostalgia. We also look for warmth in our families and friends to compensate for the tough environment. Both the media and politics tend to evoke “the good old days,” idealizing a time when life was more simple. It makes sense then, that the average customer desires trusted, time-proven items like handcrafted goods and traditionally made products.

Families in particular are actively seeking out products and businesses that provide comfort, that make them smile, and that create a sense of nostalgia. A wonderful local example is a ‘cognactheek,’ a shop exclusively filled with special types of brandy, sold with love. Another popular example is a gourmet bakery that makes delicious specialty breads with funny names like ‘bommy and pinsy’. These breads are well known for their certain medicinal qualities ranging from improving your digestion to giving you shiny hair.

Regardless of your business, you absolutely have the ability to make people smile. Notice what aspects of your services or products have this happy-inducing quality and keep them going! Advertise those aspects and use great visuals to make them really stand out. Key ideas to think about are:

make people forget insecurities and smile
tradition and handcraft
detail makes the difference

4. Connection

The modern individual chooses to be connected all the time.  There are some individuals who are so good at managing their connections that they actually make a profit from it! They’ve created huge networks, smartly leveraged certain relationships, and ultimately created value from their connections. Many companies are jumping on the social media/ networking bandwagon too. I predict that, within a couple of years, customer social values, as well as online network values, will be adopted in the way shareholders are treated as well. Business people aren’t the only ones benefiting this boom in connections. Students are being educated for jobs in this arena that don’t even exist yet. Particular  ‘underground societies’ and movements can establish themselves rapidly with these new connecting tools.  Being connected 24/7 contributes to the fact that we will work on a profit and priority basis in new work streams, because we can work always and everywhere. Organizations will set-up new ways of connecting with everyone that has an opinion to solve worldwide problems in a more democratic way. Successful utilizations of this concept include BetterMeans, Stand-up Inspiration, and 7 Days of Inspiration.

When thinking about your own business in relation to this trend, consider how your brand connect with customers. Think about how you shape value in those moments and messages. Also think about the media you use to get that message across. Key ideas to keep in mind are:

sharing is multiplying
always and everywhere
it’s all about value

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Article written by Esmée Schonfeldt from Studio Branding for CRAVE Amsterdam. Studio Branding investigates signals of the street and translates them to concrete influences for the branding of labels and companies. It delivers three services - trend research, image research and brand development – led by Esmée Schönfeldt.

CRAVE Amsterdam business chat on KISS

Sunday, March 20th, 2011

Being an entrepreneur is a lifestyle and that means the business is there to support your way of living. If you feel your business takes more than it gives you energy, you need to reflect and discuss smarter ways to organise your business. On the 21st of February, about 20 business owners listened, talked and shared smart business strategies.

Stephanie Ward of Firefly Coaching presented us the one hand blue print in business we all should materialise.
Her tips are:

1 KISS the business model
How do you make money? Make sure you have it written down on 1 piece of paper and analyze the revenue streams. Get rid of payment per hour and create a package that brings value to your customer and to you. Make a small, medium and large offering and people most likely take the medium so increase your revenue on the middel package.

2 KISS time
Organise time by your agenda. Define working and networking days of day times. Say no if you do not have a reason to drink coffee. Did you know there is no need to turn a coffee invitation down? Buy time, tell your contact you have to schedule and combine events to increase your efficiency. Know that your new job is trying to find your way so you better create time to receive it! Organise a coffee-day, plan a to do list and above all commit to yourself!

3 KISS Marketing
Don’t get all crazy about digital marketing, choose the marketing means that work for you and start with one single message: what is the No#1 call to action you want people to do when the hear about you, visit your page or listen to your pitch? Keep the message short and attractive, sell on a later date.

4 KISS Staff
Focus your time on the things you are good at and outsource the rest. Have a person to manage your administration, taxes, presentation, communication, marketing or telephone. Create your business to grow an be creative to organize your own time to focus on what it is you are really good at.

5 KISS Life
Enjoy time for you and live a happy life. Without a happy entrepreneur, there’s no happy business!

Jessica Lomabardo shared her Art & Wine experience and how she endend up being a poor business owner, risking her marriage and performing less excellent than her standard. Her insights were a great lesson for all of us and it has taken honesty and guts to share. Jessica and her husband – who is a chef – moved on and embraced their lessons in business succesfully and see their performance in a bright future with Lombardo’s, “een ambachtelijke eetwinkel” the best foodstore in town. Thank you, Jessica for your beautiful story!

In addition to KISS two women shared their stories on new business models. CRAVE member Marijke Krabbenbos of Ideacompany is currently busy attracting ‘Funds from the Crowd’ for her Quolor initiative – a female basics quality t-shirts. The other entrepreness, Lonneke Verbunt presented her Crowd financing journey for her company – a concept store where social and micro brands can sell their products. She is starting up a new fair fashion retail concept, “a store built on stories” called Brand Mission.

We would love to thank all the attendees who listened, shared and connected at the CRAVE Chat and we take pleasure into announcing the second CRAVE Business chat: “Know your strengths” to guide us to focus on the stuff we truly create our business value with.

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Post written by Athalie Stegeman, on behalf of the CRAVE Amsterdam team

I want to hear real stories of people – Versidee

Monday, February 28th, 2011


Last week I was at Het Grote Interview Gala 2011. All kinds of journalists and TV stations were in the Stadsschouwburg in Amsterdam and talked about their profession. It was really crowded. A lot of people tried and only managed to get a few words from those famous people. I did not felt at ease there. When I cycled back home I thought to myself: “No, this is not my profession, I do not want to talk about myself and throw mud on others. What am I doing. It was a big crisis and I thought about quitting my profession as a filmmaker and start working in a pet shop or zoo and never talk to people.”
But then my heart began to talk to me, and said this is the best moment you ever had. Now you know where you are good at and what your own ups are.

I want to hear real stories of people . Stories about their work, their life, their dreams. And put them on youtube or internet so more people can hear and see it.
Because I think that is the best way of selling your bussiness is by being yourself and talk from your heart.
So I began to work on my workshop again and created a real nice one especially for you. Branding and video. Where you can be yourself and have a nice video of yourself.

So stop imitating others and throw your elevator pitch out of the window. Be in contact with yourself and talk about that. You will be amazed what can happen. I help you with that in the 4 hour workshop.

The workshop will be given in Amsterdam, march 15, The HUB, Diemen, april 8 Elsina, April 20, IGLUU Utrecht.

Price 195,- excl. BTW and if you are in the CRAVE book 170 excl. BTW.

Do not miss it!

Linde ten Broek
www.versidee.nu

CRAVE Reflections edition 2

Thursday, February 17th, 2011

Wauw,  what an insights we gained. It was so rewarding to take time to reflect and learn. Want to know a little about our insights? Read on.

With a group of great business women we shared, recognized and grew. Reflections are about understanding the phases we are in today, the strengths that keep us successful and the work we need to do the overcome both personal and business barriers. Dare to share means realising that it takes guts to share and there is the rewarding part too.

Faye Cosser of Juxta Position tells us all about the importance of time in relation. The strengths of astrological insights, forms a clear sign throughout the chat. It and everything is connected through time; date of birth, star signs, friends with similar signs are easily explained but also the relationship between collegues and the company birthdate. Faye inspired all of us and we got curious about our individual situation and our chances in business.

Marianne founder of Tromper is a serial entrepreneur. She combines her business intuition with great timing to balance the work and life situation. As a result, the way to move forward, how to be successfull in a smart sense, is depending on it. It is just a matter of defining what she needs based on her preferences in life. This is true for Daniella Rubinovitz and Blanca Vergara too, as all pieces are coming together, they find themselves moving into a new phase in life. We all develop every six to seven years and each phase has typical characteristics in quality of life. Cris of Crisspix is rapidly developing from IT professional to CRAVE business connector, visual communicator in photography and on top of that internet entrepreneur with iPhone app 123DressMe. Pieces are falling together and she has a great opportunities ahead of her. Gaid of Ietje Company is an ambitious selfstarter. She has a clear vision in what she wants to achieve. She is considering various options to enhance her business and by reflecting she realized that her strenght is somehow turning against her. Tanja is a designer. Her passion for designs and fabrics mover her away from fashion and straight into what she is best at: designing patterns. Creators like Tanja of Pieces of Art often notice that the focus on passion also brings a need for partnerships as you are more successfull when you focus. Faye indicated great tools that allow any business owner to successfully grow in partnerships.  As different times have different qualities, there is much to gain by using thoughts and intuition. Daniella Rubinovitz, owner of Atelier Molenpad, Teresa of The California Girl and Helen Grevink of De Knipkamer were all very aware of that. It’s our time, we women are the power of time, lets gather and use this power.

The insights of this edition of CRAVE reflections for me is that on a professional level, my ideas are sky-high and there is more room for questions. Asking questions feels like asking a favour, which seems more difficult that giving and yet that’s the part I like the most, so why not offer the pleasure to all of you?

Get more out of reflections. Faye and Daniella are organising a unique joint event on March 24th. Take a look at the programme and reserve a spot.

The next CRAVE reflection is on April 7th 7 – 10 PM. Join us! (more info soon, see pictures form this one here)

Contact me if you want to participate as a professional reflector like Vera of Innearth did in the first and Fay and Daniella did in the second edition.

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Post written by Athalie Stegeman.

Five Focal Points To Simplify Your Biz

Thursday, February 3rd, 2011

Being a business owner means that you perform a multitude of roles. And often it seems like there’s always more to do than there is time.

But there are ways you can keep things as simple as possible and reduce the amount of time and energy you spend running your business.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the KISS principle (Keep It Simple Stupid). Well, let’s leave off that last word and just focus on keeping it simple. Here are five areas of your business you can simplify starting today:

1. Your Business Model
Your business model is the foundation of your business, how it makes money. If you’re offering too many products and services or if your products and services are not logically connected to a central theme, then you’re going to struggle.

Take a close look at your most profitable revenue streams (more on how to do that here) and only focus on promoting the ones that are most profitable.

You may discover that there are products and services that aren’t making you money (or that don’t fit with your focus) that you can simply stop offering. To find out if your business model is healthy read this.

2. Your Time
You get to choose how you spend your time. You can say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to all of the opportunities available to you.

For many of us it seems crazy to say ‘no’ to something that could be good for the business. But if you’re extremely clear about your focus, you can easily see which options are the best use of your time and will know which ones to say ‘no’ to.

For more information about how saying ‘no’ can grow your business check out this article.

3. Your Marketing
Mediocre marketing done consistently beats ‘stop and start’ marketing that’s done randomly every single time. Analyze your marketing efforts and find out which of your marketing strategies are the most effective.

Once you know that, focus only on the strategies that work and drop the rest. Having a few successful marketing strategies that are done consistently can work wonders for your business.

4. Tasks you don’t like or aren’t good at doing
Outsourcing and delegating are fabulous ways to simplify your business. Think about thinks like: administration, technical tasks, accounting, and taxes.

By hiring someone to do these tasks for you, you will have more time to focus on higher value activities and the things you love to do.

5. Your Life
I’m guessing you started your business because you are passionate about what you do and you wanted the freedom to create a business that supports your life. If your business is running your life, it’s time to turn that around.

It’s critical that you make time for yourself to do the things that give you energy and allow you to recharge your batteries. If you don’t do this you are actually putting your business in jeopardy.

So although it may seem counterintuitive, and you may feel like you don’t have time to spend on yourself, the truth is you can’t afford not to.

Make the decision to keep it simple in your business and change the way you’re currently doing things. By applying the KISS principle, you’ll have more time, less stress, and more money in your bank account.

This post was written for the CRAVE company by marketing coach Stephanie Ward of Firefly Coaching.

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Pucker Up and Get Ready to KISS

Tuesday, February 1st, 2011

Pucker up everybody, it’s time to KISS. In other words – keep it simple, stupid! This month, CRAVE is focusing on the best ways to un-complicate your business.

There are so many companies out there that have a single focus – cupcakes, edgy haircuts, handmade greeting cards, you get the idea – and they are successful because they have perfected their craft and don’t let extraneous or unnecessary “stuff” take away from what they’re truly best at.

Throughout February, we are going to hear from women business owners from many industries and locations on their strategies for KISS-ing. We hope you’ll stay tuned – there’s lots of juicy advice coming your way! You’ll learn what works, what doesn’t, and why you need to KISS from these impressive entreprenesses.

Get the low down on how to keep it simple as our experts indulge you with valuable tips about how they manage to keep their business models and their lives operating with sweet, sweet simplicity.

Risk Taking: Should You Dare?

Tuesday, February 1st, 2011

We’re ringing in the new year at CRAVE with a question for all you women business owners out there… Do you dare? Is 2011 going to be a year of taking risks with your business, holding back, or a combination of both? To help you strategize, we are dedicating the month of January to the pros and cons of risk-taking across the board. Our business chat and blog entries will be brimming with juicy stories of risks gone right or wrong as well as advice from our CRAVE experts on when to know to take a leap of faith or to simply sit back and let life fall into place.

We knew this would be a hot topic when Melody wanted to know what her Facebook followers ask themselves before taking a risk and got SO many amazing responses. Check them out and prepare yourself for an exciting month of risks and rewards!

What do you ask yourself before you take a risk?
Just curious? before you take a risk? a leap to something new? start a new project? WHAT DO YOU ASK YOURSELF? do you write down the pros and cons? do you just do it and ask why later? how long do you ponder? do you end up jumping? or do nothing? tell me!!! what is your risk taking style?

Suzette Sommer
Oh… wow. What is a “risk?” That is one four-letter word that I have seemingly never known.
Sydney Chavez
I ask myself what I would lose if I didn’t take the leap.
Nicole Francois
before i take a risk i ask myself: why i am interested in taking the risk, what i hope to gain from it, what the result will be and who’s going to be with me? then, i outline my plan and jump!
Maria Ross
Before I take a risk I ask myself if I will regret it more if I don’t take it than if I do. I weigh pros and cons, seek advice from those I trust….and then go with my gut! At a certain point, if it feels right, all the data in the world doesn’t matter.
Sonja Silver
The first thing I ask is “what is the worst thing that can happen”? If I can live with the answer, I go for it. The biggest risk is to not take one!
Elise Kloter
same here, Sonia…puts the scary stuff in perspective
Melody Biringer
lovin all you risk takers….keep it coming! as i get older i seem to take risks slower and more cautious. i want to be naive again!
Lauren Bacon
These days, more and more I check in with my gut. I highly recommend a little book called “Make Light Work” by Kate Sutherland that has helped me enormously with listening to my intuition. (It’s cool and non-flaky, I promise.)
Michelle Michael
what’s the reward…? is it personal or financial? maybe a little of both. go for it, and surround yourself with those that support your dream!
Lyndi Thompson
My first thought: Risks can often be re-labeled as adventures. I tend to dismiss risks that I don’t feel I have good access to supportive people around me. However, most of the time I can find at least two people. I try imagine best and worst case scenario, while always keeping in mind I know I make pretty good decisions and in the end things always end up OK.
Mary Boisselle
I usually don’t ask any questions…I trust my intuition then I take a huge leap and bungie jump off the bridge or I don’t. There is a reason why opportunities come, so I can find the gem inside, whether it’s a pearl or a piece of glass.
Larisa Goldin
I try to check in with my guidance. i believe that risks are just opportunities in disguise, the only question is whether they are part of the intended path or are a test (a distraction). So based on what I get back from my inner guidance (does it feel right?) I take the risk or not.
Rupa Wickrama
Feelings of Anxiety = don’t take it. Feelings of Anticipation or Excitement = this warrants further exploration!
Sydney Chavez
I CRAVE Risk Taking. : )
Traci Barnum
Jump and figure everything else out later. Unless of course, you have a really smart husband who demands that you make a plan before you jump and break into your retirement fund for that risk. It’s a great balance. : )
Carrie McIlveen Middlemiss
It’s typically a gut feeling. I usually think it through and if it still feels right I go for it. Especially if it is something I’ll enjoy and it makes money.
Jennifer Saphier Whitman
I have to step away from the decision for a few days. It always pops back into my head while I am doing other things during the day. If every time the idea pops up I get a sick feeling, I know it isn’t the right choice. If I get excited every time I think about it, it is a definite go!

We hope these comments get you thinking about your own risk-tasking strategies for the year and that you’ll stay tuned to our blog over the next month and share your own daring deeds in the comments! And of course, have a Happy New Year from CRAVE!

BONUS Post: 5 Risk Rules for a Balanced, Sane Life

Tuesday, February 1st, 2011

For years, you have worked towards achieving that perfect work-life balance. Now, you have it down to an art and you are living and loving life. Then one day you wake up and BAM! A new, fabulous opportunity knocks at your door. Your logical inner voice says, “You just mastered this life. Don’t shake things up now.” But, that other, more adventurous you, says, “Go for it and live to your greatest potential.”

The inner battle continues. Your free-spirited self, reminds you of your college days, when you were spontaneous and lived in a not-so-calculated world. You still adore her, but are afraid to embrace her. Remember, living a balanced life calls for…balance! This includes the balance of professional and personal life, but also the balance of a calculated and care-free life. These 5 rules of risk-taking will help you maximize your potential, while still living a balanced and sane life.

Take the risk if you will regret the inaction more than the action. When you are confronted with a new and risky endeavor ask yourself, “How would I feel if I don’t do this?” Would you look back five years from now and regret your decision? If so, then go for it. There is nothing like living a life clouded by “what if’s.”

Take the risk if your biggest fear is rejection. Recently, a great opportunity came my way and I almost rejected it. My best friend asked, “What is the worst that could happen?” As it turned out, I feared failure. Once you identify the worst case scenario, ask yourself, “Is that good enough?” My answer was a big fat N-O. A hurt ego is not a good enough reason to pass up a potentially, career-changing opportunity. What is your answer?

Remember that risk is relative. My notion of a risk is not the same as yours and vice versa. For example, what you define as a risk might be based upon the amount of money it requires while my risk might be defined by how much it will limit my time to work on other projects. Only take on what is appropriate for your situation.

Visualize the best outcome. You are uniquely created and no one else can do what you do, how you do it. After all, that is why this opportunity found its way to you in the first place. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and imagine your success. It feels good doesn’t it?

Stop worrying about perfection. You may be more likely to take on a risk once you eliminate the perfection factor. I was hesitant to launch my blog because I wanted to wait a few months to get it “just right.” Launching an imperfect blog was just not the risk I wanted. In reality, nothing is ever perfect. We constantly find imperfections and ways to fix them. If we continue to wait for perfect moments then our lives will be one, long waiting game.

Patrice N. Perkins is the founder and editor of My Lifestyle ZEN, a Chicago-based blog for working professionals and entrepreneurs who value quality of life. You can visit Patrice’s website here: http://www.mylifestylezen.com/

Don’t Be Shy, Make Some Noise

Monday, January 31st, 2011

Am I good enough? Smart/attractive/savvy enough? Do they like me? These are all questions that women may have asked at some point in their personal (and maybe professional) lives. In our businesses and entrepreneurial spaces, the questions shift some but follow that same pattern: Am I doing this right? Will this generate income? Will the customers like my new product?

The fear or responses to these questions can hinder a person and cause hesitation in action. As an entrepreneur or business owner, you’ve taken the biggest risk…allowing yourself to get started and believing in your venture.

As a publicist, my job is to get the word out on behalf of my clients ~ writing articles, booking media interviews, etc. I know that sometimes people are fearful of drawing attention to themselves. There are, of course, some good reasons to hold off on media attention. Perhaps your marketing collateral isn’t ready, you need to wrap up final details on a product launch, etc. However, once those pieces are in place you’ll want to have all eyes on you, make some noise and get the word out about your product or service. Never been on TV? Why not now? Never seen your name or your business’ name in print? Now’s the time! OK, OK, there’s absolutely no way you’re going on TV…well, let’s get you a spokesperson. No excuses, let’s put your brand out there!

Having a marketing budget is often mistakenly left out of the “I’m launching a business” equation. Without a plan to market or publicize your business, this can be more than risky…it may actually put you at a disadvantage. Reaching out to the media and generating some buzz for your business doesn’t have to be nerve-wracking or expensive though. Thanks to social media and the internet, there are numerous cost-efficient ways to get the word out about your company and brand. From Facebook pages and twitter, to free online distribution websites including 1888PressRelease, i-Newswire and PRZoom.

Here are few quick tips to get you on the buzz-generating track:

1) Research your target audience. What are they reading, watching and what websites do they peruse? You want to be on there, too. Whether you’re writing a guest post or commenting on a blog, reach out to your target so they can get to know you and your company.

2) What problem are you solving with your product or service? Yes, YOU are filling a need with your business. What is that need and how are you fulfilling it? Now put this in a story pitch or press release.

3) Before you reach out to the media…read and watch them. There’s nothing worse than putting your brand out there to the incorrect media contact. It shows that you’re not paying attention to what they do professionally. (The food editor does not need a pitch on your new handbag line.) The same thing applies to bloggers. They want to know that you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say.

Take a risk, put yourself out there and make some noise for yourself and your business this year. You’re a risk taker and you deserve the attention!

Nancy Vaughn is the principal, PR & Marketing Director at White Book Agency, a public relations, marketing and special events firm providing cost-effective communication strategies for entrepreneurs and businesses across the country.

Conquer Your Fear of Risk in Four Steps

Friday, January 28th, 2011

I recently attended a lecture by Rabbi Harold Kushner, who’s probably most well known for his best-seller “When Bad Things Happen to Good People” but whose subject this particular evening was his latest book release: “Conquering Fear: Living Boldly in an Uncertain World.

The introduction caught my attention when it was said that more people have died of fear caused by 9/11 and the idea of terrorism after the fact (anxiety produced complications and deaths) than the number of lives actually lost by the events that day. Wow.

Our Greatest Fear: Rejection
Interestingly, terrorism is not our greatest fear. Nor is the economic recession. Nor is it the reality of aging or the thought of someday dying. We hear a lot of about those things; the news is consumed with those subjects. But, truth be told, the most paralyzing fear we experience is rejection. Or said another way: the fear of what people will think about us. Sounds small, but lives out in huge ways.

Sitting in that auditorium, that observation resonated. How many of my life choices are impacted by that fear? How much of our lives are influenced by the desire to be accepted or the desire to avoid rejection? Even the fear of success and failure have roots in this overarching fear.

Whether it’s doing something to try to get someone to like me or not doing something to avoid someone not liking me. Whether it’s not trying for the promotion, the new job, the business idea development or the sale for risk of failure or pursuing them only to try to gain approval. Whether it’s acting uninterested when I really am. Or acting interested when I’m really not.

Stepping Through the Fear
While many fears stem from our fear of rejection, not all of them do. And while often our fears of what others think say more about us than it does about them, it doesn’t mean those fears are silly or unfounded. Regardless of your fears, we have to keep learning how to step through them.

1) Acknowledge the Fear. The first step to overcoming fear as we consider risks is to acknowledge it’s there. I think it was Mark Twain who said courage isn’t the absence of fear but the mastery of it. Feeling the fear only means you’re alive and that something matters to you. That’s good!

2) Identify what You’re Possibly Risking. Every choice (even the choice to do nothing) has possible losses. List them! What is the worst-case scenario? Answer this question honestly. What do you risk losing in this choice? And importantly, include the fears that stem from some variation of rejection—for there are many.

3) Identify what You’re Possibly Gaining. One must be informed of the risks, but no one risking losing for nothing. What are you hoping to gain? For what purpose are you considering this risk? For some, answering this question will help them determine that even risking their life is worth it for the purpose. For most of us, the risk will not be so costly but they will be put in the right context.

In my business of introducing women to new friends in their area, I see how easy it is for women to focus on the risks: they don’t want to admit they need new friends (fear of what that might say about them), don’t want to risk the time it takes to pursue them or risk feeling awkward or insecure in the process. However, for those who can identify what they might gain: increased happiness, a sense of connection, local support, improved health, more fun memories, deep conversations—they are more likely to take the risks because they so value the gains.

4) Affirm that You’re Not Alone. Confide in someone who will love you no matter the loss or gain from your risk. Surround yourselves with others taking the risks you want to take. Connect with a community that reminds you of why you’re doing what you’re doing.
Risks are in the blueprint of business owners and entrepreneurs. We live in this world. It is not a worthy goal to simply show up without fear—we cannot control our emotions. But it is a worthy goal to glean information from that emotion and learn to step through the risks that we feel will move us toward the things we value.

By Shasta Nelson, M.Div, CEO of www.GirlFriendCircles.com, the only online community of women that matches new friends up to meet in small groups in local areas. She is a life coach, blogger and writes and speaks prolifically on the subject of friendship.

*dice photo is courtesy of Flickr user parl.