“In hindsight, I didn’t think about it. I just entered it. I didn’t dwell on it, because I didn’t have a lot of time. And that changed my life.”
It was 10:00 at night when Francesca Friesen received an email from a friend. It was a forward for a contest that she said “reminded me of you.” The contest was for a trip to visit every country in the world. Entries were due at 10:00am the next day. She had an impulse to enter it, and so she did.
Spoiler: she didn’t win, but the simple act of entering the contest changed her life. It planted a crave inside of her mind, and from there she started to put a plan in place.
A few months ago, Francesca gave her notice, and told her boss that she would be leaving her corporate job to travel the world. She boarded her plane a few weeks ago on September 11th.
“I think what happens to a lot of people in the corporate world, is they become bottle necked in their position. I knew I was the only one who could do what I was doing in the company, and that if I left there would be no one there to do it… so I guilted myself into staying (even though I wasn’t enjoying it anymore). When I fly out, it will have been almost a year of thinking about it and making it happen. It took a long time.
There’s nothing wrong with following the rules, but I was stuck living a life that was right and successful in other people’s eyes (my version of conformity), instead of living a life that was successful in my own heart.”
Our Conversation with Francesca Friesen
(aka Frankie Freedom)
What habits have created the greatest momentum in your life?
Gratitude. Goal setting.
What’s your process for setting goals?
I do the typical one and five year goals, and then I make a vision board that goes with it. Since 2011, I’ve been making annual vision boards. At the end of the year, if there’s something incomplete, I put it on the next one.
What sorts of things have been on your vision boards?
There’ve been a lot of houses and pictures related to finding a relationship. There were also a lot of travel goals, but I never really took action towards making them happen. I was scared.
A lot of the things that I wanted have changed.
One thing I do that’s pretty unique with goal-setting, is that I allow myself to change my mind. I’m using the money I saved to buy a house to travel. If I hadn’t given myself permission to change my mind, I’d be missing the opportunity to follow my heart. For me, my goals have to consistently align with what I want in my heart.
I also try to understand where I am.
You can’t really move forward if you’re moving from an un-solid foundation. I was feeling stuck and ungrateful.
I was resisting where I was instead of taking a moment to look a the situation in the moment, and then moving forward from there. What was my current reality?
I’m working here, I’m in a lease until September. Could I get out of this lease? Maybe, maybe not. Could I get out of this job? Yes. How would I do that? I’d give my two weeks.
I really broke my life down, and then decided what I wanted to look differently.
For me, that practice was literally sitting there and asking “what do I want out of life? And why do I want it?”
The why was very important to me, because it gave me perspective.
What fears have you conquered in your life?
I went budgy jumping this summer. I also went on a road trip by myself this summer – strictly because I was scared to. This summer I actually decided that I would practice conquering my fear.
I’m on the 50th floor of my apartment, and I couldn’t stand on my patio because I was afraid of heights. So I went bungy jumping. Now I can stand on my patio.
I had an anxiety disorder growing up… I’ve conquered a lot of fears since then.
How do you practice? Do you do what’s scarier than your fear?
Yes. I climbed a mountain with someone I had never met to watch the sunrise.
I taught a yoga class – I’d had my teacher training for awhile, but I’d been afraid of teaching.
Literally this summer was just practicing.
What do you consider ‘healthy fear’?
I don’t want that anxious fight or flight type of fear, but that fear that just lets me know that I’m doing something that I’m meant to be doing. For me, that’s been the basis for all the best decisions I’ve ever made. When I feel it, in my gut I know that it’s what I need to do.
What 5 things do you CRAVE in your life?
I CRAVE yoga
I CRAVE whole vegan food that nourishes my body
I CRAVE exercise
I CRAVE healthy fear
I CRAVE love for everybody.
You can follow Francesca on her blog: www.frankiefreedom.com